Ricci Genetics...

Yesterday Mike and I had our follow up appointment at the fertility clinic to decide what the next steps were.  After my D&C we opted to have genetic testing done in order to shed some light onto why I miscarried and where we should go from here.  Unfortunately/fortunately the genetic tests didn’t find any chromosomal abnormalities, which means we are unsure why the pregnancy failed.  Since the results were inconclusive, we are back to square one trying to figure out what we can do to boost the chances of IVF working.  There are three things that could be contributing factors that Dr. Hammoud mentioned, so now we are just trying to figure out which it could be, if any.  They are…

1)      The first (and I believe most likely) is there is a problem in the maturation process.  Each time I have had a retrieval done, I have been able to get many eggs but by the time we reach day 5 there are only a couple embryos left and we never have any to freeze.  Dr. Hammoud believes this is because I overstimulate, or stimulate too quickly, and the eggs grow quickly but don’t mature as fast as they are growing.  In order to stop this from happening, I will go on metformin three months prior to my next IVF cycle and then take a very low dose of IVF medication.  This will result in fewer eggs but will hopefully increase their quality and allow them to develop into healthy embryos.

2)      Dr. Hammoud wants to do a hysteroscopy (go in with a small camera and look around), to see how much of my septum is remaining.  Although they removed it, they haven’t been able to confirm how much of the septum is left (they never completely remove it) and so they want to verify that the remainder of the septum isn’t a contributing factor as to why we lost our baby.  As I have mentioned before, a septum is a uterine abnormality that causes an unfavorable environment for a fetus to grow due to the lack of nutrition/blood supply available in a septum and can cause early miscarriages

3)      During an appointment last month, Dr. Petersen stated I may have some endometriosis because my right ovary doesn’t move.  I have always suspected I have endometriosis but I have never confirmed it because of how invasive laparoscopic surgery is and the fear of scar tissue, but it could be an option.  It will be a last resort though.

 

Our game plan right now is to be on a voluntary break from hardcore treatments until October just so I can relax and flush all these crazy drugs/hormones out of my body and so Mike and I can recoup from the emotional stress infertility can cause.  This date may change but as of right now, I am pretty set on waiting to start the IVF process again.  I may begin clomid again in April just to help my body ovulate, but I won’t be tracking my cycle and doing bloodwork like I have been.

I never realized IVF and infertility would be so hard on me, both emotionally and physically, and I am looking forward to getting away from the dark, angry, complainy person this has turned me into and am excited to begin focusing more on my relationship, my job and myself.  I am looking forward to many more date nights, dinners with my girls, vacations, spontaneity, accomplishments in both our careers, gym time, wine nights and me time.  I have also decided that I am tired of being a victim to my body so I have committed to run the St. George Marathon in October, as long as I can get in (it’s a lottery).  No longer will my body control me; I will control it.         

So that’s where we are.  I was having a really difficult time but I am starting to feel better and more in control than I have in a long time.  We booked a trip to Mexico in September over baby due date, and that has been a huge help.  It’s also my birthday month so I have lots of dinners, dates and celebrations on the books; all of which tend to heal my heart.  Happy 2012; I am just pretending January never happened.  :) 

Oh and silver lining... when we first found out I was pregnant Mike and I were both positive that it was a girl.  SInce we were able to get genetic testing done, we had them find out the gender and voila, we were right.  Yay for having mama intuituion!!!

Happy weekend everyone!

2+1=

My cute friend Taylor and her hubby Darren are in the process of adopting and I wanted to share their profile. She is one of the strongest women I know and she will be one incredible mama. She has been through so much in order to get her little one here and while it's been a tough road, she always handles everything with grace, humility and a smile on her face. So if you know anyone who is trying to find a family for their baby, please think of Taylor and her hubby Darren because I couldn't think of anyone more deserving then these two. Click here to visit their LDS Family Services adoption page and feel free to spread the word. :)

Hey there,

Thank you for taking a minute to get to know us. We admire your courage and strength and hope this letter will help you to know us better.

How We Became Us:
We met 10 years ago in 2001 through mutual friends. The first night we met we stayed up late talking and laughing after everyone had gone home. It was hard for us to say good night because we had such a great time together. Three days later we had our first date. We both knew there was something different than others we have dated and 3 years later we were married.

Extended Family:
We both are very close to our families and spend a lot of time with them. Every other Sunday we have family dinner at Darren’s parents. We enjoy getting together with them to play games and BBQ. Although most of Taylor’s family lives further away, we see them almost every month. We look forward to the family reunion campout each year and all of the laughs and craziness that come with it. Darren likes to go golfing with Taylor’s dad and brothers while Taylor enjoys shopping with her mom and sisters. With all we’ve been through trying to start our family, our families have been so supportive. Whether it’s prayers, family fasts or moral support we feel blessed to have them in our lives.

Hobbies and Interests:
These past few years we’ve been making an effort to enjoy Utah’s great outdoors. In fact as we write this letter we are up in the mountains camping! We love to go hiking with our dogs as well as camping, mountain biking, boating and snowboarding. We both enjoy sports and have played on a co-ed softball team together. Darren loves to golf as well as play the guitar and is a pretty good artist. Taylor enjoys going to the gym, swimming, dancing (mostly as a workout!) and also art, we even took an art class together!

We have been fortunate enough that we have had the opportunity to travel quite a bit throughout our marriage. Some of our favorite places include Maui where we love to relax on the beach. New York City is all about the food for us, though the sights are amazing the food alone is worth the trip. We loved seeing Wicked on Broadway, but one of our favorite attractions is Central Park. Cruises are also a favorite where we just get to be plain lazy!

Darren about Taylor:
The first night Taylor and I met we were in a large group of friends and we were attracted to each other right away. As we started dating we couldn’t see enough of each other. Our friends started to wonder where we always disappeared to. Today my friends still often comment on how it is hard to get us apart. We are not only life partners, but best friends as well. Taylor is the love of my life! She gets me and I get her. She loves to laugh more than anything and I enjoy making her laugh. She is very giving, kind hearted and has a smile that lights up any room. She makes friends very easily and I am constantly being told how much she is adored. When you meet her I know you will feel the same. She has a great love of children and that love is one of the many reasons I wanted her to be my wife. She currently serves in the primary presidency in our ward and I love watching her interact and teach the kids. One of my most fondest memories of Taylor is when we bought our house and I was stressed out about our new financial responsibility. I remember that night we signed all of the paperwork I couldn’t sleep and I sat up in bed because of being overwhelmed and she sat up and put her arms around me and said that we are going to be okay. She had faith that we would make everything work out and we did. We now have lived in our house for almost seven years. She has always been like that in our marriage. One of Taylor’s favorite things to do is travel and we make great traveling buddies. We try to go on a few trips a year and she plans each one. She is a big planner not only on the big things, but the small things as well. She loves her home and she loves her family more than anything. I am extremely lucky to have her by my side as my wife and eternal companion.

Taylor about Darren:
To put it simply, Darren is my better half. From day one he has been my rock and continues to be that for me with all that life throws our way. Darren is a people person, he gets along with everyone and makes them feel at ease. Darren is such a hard worker and excels in his business as a financial planner. One thing that is huge for me is humor and Darren makes me laugh every day weather it’s on purpose or one of his many quirks. I love that he gravitates towards the “under dog” and strives to make them feel loved or included.I know Darren will make an amazing father as I watch him not only with our nieces and nephews, but also with his primary class, he’s always sitting with the one who needs a friend. I love how Darren is tender hearted and I can feel his closeness to the Lord, I see that in the little things each day. I can’t recall a morning Darren hasn’t kissed me on the cheek as I’ve slept as he leaves early for work, I love that. I’m often rushing out the door to work with no time to make lunch and I’ll open the refrigerator to find he’s made me a sandwich and left a sweet note. He hates when I say this because really he is all man, but he is the greatest in that he'll miss out on watching a game and sit through my girly shows with me! That is Darren, thoughtful and always making sure I know of his love for me, I never doubt this. I knew early on in our relationship that he was a keeper and I feel so blessed to be his wife.

Family Goals:
We’ve had many years to think about our future family and the kind of parents we want to be. It has been over five years since we have started trying to have children. Through many failed infertility treatments we have come to realize the blessing adoption can be in our lives, and we are very excited about this opportunity. We want to give our children as many opportunities in life as we can. Whether it be dance, piano, baseball or football no matter what they choose we can’t wait to be a part of those fun experiences with them. With travel being a big part of our lives, we are excited to experience that as a family. Aside from all of the fun stuff, our biggest goal is to have an eternal family and for our children to know where they came from and that they are always supported and loved.

Thank you for taking the time to get to know us. We think the world of you for making such a hard decision. We can only imagine how difficult this process must be and sincerely pray that you will find comfort and inspiration in your decision.

Love, Darren and Taylor

Passion

The other day my loving step-father sent me a card that told me I was passionate.  Passionate about my job, passionate about my marriage and passionate about becoming a mother.  I have been told I am strong, that my ability to be candid has helped another and that I am inspiration.  All of these compliments have been incredibly appreciated, but for some reason being called passionate was exactly what I needed to hear.  I have questioned being open about my journey because the emotions that come with it have been so raw and each time I tell the story salt enters the wound but I also know that being open allows me and my heart to heal.

Today I came across a quote on a blog I follow, and I instantly fell in love.      

"But overall please know...you are irreplaceable.

There is no other person like you.
No one can replace the impact you have and more importantly
the story you are meant to tell."

-Brooke Leanne

This blog Bits of B is the personal blog of Utah photographer Brooke Leanne who owns Blush Photography and she is the definition of passion.  Her posts are eloquent, her love runs deep and her willingness and ability to share her emotions through beautiful words, sounds and pictures are inspirational.  

This quote reminded me that no matter how many times I am kicked down or how broken I feel, God gave me this journey and the strength to tell my story and that's what I am here to do.

Thanks Brooke for being my inspiration and for allowing me to see what passion and strength really is and for giving me the courage to continue sharing my journey.